Midweek ponder...Expectation vs Reality...

From a young age i remember having a very idealistic view on how a grown ups life should be.

I used to think of a 30 year old as...well old, with their head together and a fully fledged grown up.

The closer i get towards this momentous number...the more i realise little Tiffany was deluded, and very mislead.

Now ive had a fun, good life so far, which has involved lots of lovely holidays to my beloved USA...but on reflection i am nowhere near where i thought or even where id like to be at my ripe age of 28 (29 in two months time) and i wonder if you have ever felt the same.

I do not own property, i do not have a huge saving pot and im single with no children.  Im an old soul and truely believed that i would have all of these things in check by the time i was 30.  

I guess the aim of this post is to say- its ok- i think...I mean- like any normal person...some days i feel this is not ok and spend a day wallowing in self pity- but for the majority of the time i am at peace with this and believe something good, is and must be around the corner for me.

Settling down is a big deal for me as im a traditionalist- those of you that arent probably will see this post as not a big deal at all.  For me my main wish in life is to find my soul mate and enjoy making memories and a home with them. 

I've realised that a lot of my age group are in a similar situation- from chatting to blog friends etc. and that helps me to see that i shouldn't be so hard on myself- believe me ive treated myself as a failure for a while now.

So what have i done to help myself- the main change and help for me has been surrounding myself with amazing friends.  I value them more than anything in this world...saying this- its also helped me sieve out some not so good pals.  Ill talk more about this in my trimming the fat post scheduled for this month!

Ive literally packed out my diary- i try to do as much as i can to keep myself occupied and not sitting home and wallowing.  I have also been loving a good quote, here are some of my favourites:

If you live for peoples acceptance, you will die from their rejection

if someone breaks your heart, punch them, no seriously, punch them and go get ice cream

Life is too short for fake butter, cheese or people

If you dont design your own life plan, chances are yull fall into someone elses plan.  And guess what they have 
planned for you- not much.

Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it will elude you. But the moment you turn your attention to other things; it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.
You were born with the ability to change someone's life. Don't waste it.

I hope you dont mind these posts as i find them theraputic to write and helpful to look back on- after all i do treat this as my online diary also.  I also hope that maybe it has helped if you are feeling in a similar position? When i was feeling crap i scowered the net for similar storied to relate to.

Anyway- let me know!

T xxx

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